The Myth Of Having It All Before 30
How many people do you genuinely know that ‘have it all’. What I mean is, how many people do you know are at the top of their careers, happily married, live in a beautiful home with a white picket fence, raised perfect kids, drive a great car, has no debt and looks flawless.
I most certainly don’t. I know people who can tick of 1 or 2 of those listed at most. Yet, although we know this, we still judge educated twentysomething women by these standards. Those that come closest should be praised and those that don’t should be felt sorry for.
Tick tock, there goes your biological clock.
Not all educated twenty-something women are itching to reform and marry every crazy fool they swipe right on Tinder. But fertility is a legitimate back-of-the-mind anxiety for many of us, and we tend to create timelines for ourselves. We're fully aware that we lose fertility at a certain age, but also that we lose professional power after we have kids.
However, most of us would like to raise kids in a loving and comfortable environment. The truth is, not all those in their twenties have the luxury of a stable work, life and home setting to bring a human into the world.
So, if you’re still working towards that goal, good on you girl, you’ll be a kickass mum ONE day.
Unless you are extremely fortunate, you aren’t likely to have the corner office or the multi-million pound salary while you are in your 20s. Life is not a reality TV show.
Twentysomethings around the world are struggling with the transition from University to career — and not just to career, but to the PERFECT career.
Just remember that a little perspective and humility goes a long way! Turning a bad career move or set back into a learning experience shows maturity as well as personal and professional development. Most people hit their stride in their thirties and forties within their careers. Don’t be frustrated by being the “low man on the totem pole”, great things take time.
First-time buyers of London homes need an average of £100,445 just to cover their deposit, even the most high-paying graduate jobs won’t get you on the capital’s property ladder anytime soon. Home ownership has fallen to its lowest level in 30 years according to recent reports. Even scarier, it’s not just Londoners who are struggling, but people across other major cities in the UK.
You’re not alone. If you have a roof over your head and food on the table you’re more fortunate that a large percentage of the world’s population.
Social media doesn’t help
The point is that you do amazing things each day that aren’t broadcast over the internet and you’re still awesome. So, don’t let the illusion of other people having it together dictate your awesomeness.
That new mum posting cute pictures of her baby could be struggling to keep her identity and wished she had time for sleep. That girl with the high-flying career could wish she had more time to spend with her friends and family. That lady that’s so loved up in a picture-perfect relationship could be over compensating for the relationship she wished she really had.
Thanks to the culture we’ve created around social media it’s so difficult to think objectively and see our value without the likes and shares. But, the illusion of having it all together is just that, a complete illusion. We are all humans and we are all struggling in some way.